It seems everywhere you go you see couples. Couples at restaurant, couples at the movies, couples at the hardware store, couples everywhere! Some of them don’t even make sense to you;
You Work Too Much.
Of course you have to work, we all do, and you certainly don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t pull their weight, but do you work too much? Some people can’t leave their job at the office, it’s part of their identity, without their job, they don’t know who they are. So, they take on more than they need to, or they constantly interrupt social gatherings, (when they do show up,) to take a work call, or to ‘put a fire out.’
That may make you feel important, but it’s telling the people around you that they’re not important enough for you. So, the next time you hear yourself asking the question; “why can’t I meet someone?” Consider the fact that It may be because you don’t have time for anyone; then make the necessary priority and time management adjustments.
Baggage From Past Relationships.
Whether you’re obsessing about what went wrong in a past relationship, lamenting over the one who got away, or simply injecting expectations or fears into a current possibility, you’re not leaving enough room for a relationship to happen. You’re still in your past relationship but aren’t enjoying the benefits. It’s time to put a period after it and move on. Every relationship is in your life to teach you something. Look for the lesson, learn from it, then let it go. Instead of saying Why can’t I meet someone. Focus instead on breaking up with the ghost from the past first.
Your Online Dating Profile Just Doesn’t Cut It
It’s hard to write about yourself. It’s harder still to point out the things you think would attract someone else, after all, you don’t want to come off as an ego maniac. But your online dating profile is the first thing potential suitors see, so if you don’t compel them to want to learn more about you, they’ll just click on ‘next.’ Why not get a friend to help you? Ask them to point out your best qualities, better yet, have them write it for you. Don’t say; ‘Why can’t I meet someone?’ Ask instead; “What makes me a great catch?’ List the reasons and incorporate them into your online dating profile.
You’re Constantly Negative and Have Low Self-Esteem.
If ‘Why Can’t I Meet Someone’ is your mantra, then that’s what everyone hears, whether you say it out loud or not! Soon people will probably think there must be a good reason. It’s negative energy and nobody wants to be around negative people. Ever hear that saying ‘fake it ‘til you make it?’ It’s a good idea. You may not feel like you’re the belle of the ball, or the man of the hour, but you can change that. Start listing all the things you like about yourself, the things that make you a good catch. Write them on index cards or sticky notes and place them around your house where you can see them every day. Be very, very mindful about the words you say after ‘I AM.’ Those two words are very powerful, make sure you don’t follow them with something negative, like ‘I am a loser’ or ‘I am so stupid’ you get the idea, whatever follows I Am is being imprinted in your brain. Remember, if you don’t think you’re worth it, who else will? So whenever you find yourself asking the question; ‘Why can’t I meet someone?’ Answer it with an affirmation; ‘I am worthy of love, success and happiness.’ You can find many other affirmations online, just ask google.
You’re Chasing After the Wrong People.
If you want someone who’s physically fit, you’ll have to go to the gym. If you want someone who’s not afraid of commitment, stay away from that guy with the wedding ring who’s always at happy hour. If you’re struggling to pay the rent, stay away from the woman with the designer knock-offs, she likes expensive things. So the answer here to; Why Can’t I Meet Someone is because you’re looking for love in all the wrong places.
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