Things You Should NEVER Do On A First Date

  1. Show up late. Showing up late for a first date demonstrates a lack of regard for the other person.
  2. Ignore your appearance/hygiene. First impressions count. You don’t need to change who you are, but it’s important to present the best possible version of you.
  3. Overload the cologne. We want to entice our date, not suffocate them.
  4. Have your phone out. Texting or answering calls on a first date is a big no-no. Do yourself a favour and keep your phone in your pocket or your purse.
  5. Talk about your ex. Talking about your ex on a first date is a huge turn-off. If you feel the urge to talk about your ex, perhaps you are not over them and should not be on a first date to begin with.
  6. Interview them. Do not grill your date.
  7. Poor manners. Poor manners such as swearing, picking your teeth or licking your fingers are not a good first impression.
  8. Go over the top planning. First dates are meant to be relatively casual. You don’t want to over plan for a first date and make your date feel uncomfortable. Going out to a nice restaurant or a pub is a perfect way to get to know someone. You do not need a 5-star restaurant to do that.
  9. Plan a movie date. First dates are meant to get to know the person; you can’t do that if you’re not talking.
  10. Get drunk. Having a drunk, sloppy, slurring date is not attractive.
  11. Express your desire to have children. Use the first date to see if you have chemistry and compatibility with your date first before you move onto the serious relationship discussions.
  12. It’s great to think you’re great, but don’t over do it by only talking about yourself. Make sure you are expressing interest in what your date is all about too.
  13. Not eat. First dates can be nerve racking but picking at your food is only going to confuse your date and make them think you can’t be yourself and are uncomfortable.
  14. Be negative. Keep the date positive.
  15. Start talking about a second date before the first is over. Don’t get ahead of yourself. Be in the moment and enjoy the first date. There will be plenty of time for planning later if it goes well.
  16. Expectations over pay. Never expect that the other person will pay. It is gentlemanly to have the male pay on a first date, but never act as if you expect it.
  17. Check out other people/flirt with people.   Focus on your date.
  18. Make sexual references. Diving into the sex talk too soon can give your date the wrong impression.
  19. Over share/Revealing family history. You do not need to reveal everything about yourself and your history on a first date.
  20. Don’t be creepy post date. Resist the urge to immediately add your date to social media or text them non-stop. Give them enough space to process the date; at least a day.