Holding onto a relationship that is no longer serving you prevents you from being authentically happy and experiencing a true partnership that is compatible to you.
We hold onto relationships out of fear of hurting the person, fear of being alone, fear for our children, fear of the unknown, but is being with someone who you know isn’t right for you worth the inner turmoil of going against your inner guide?
Your gut always tells you something is off, something isn’t right. It’s that little whisper in your head that you just cannot escape. Typically, you always know it’s time to breakup, way before the breakup happens. For some, it’s as if you need to convince yourself it’s time to breakup through “practical signs” to back up your intuition.
Learning to trust yourself and your feelings is first and foremost, something that takes time and often evolves as we move through relationships.
Here are 10 signs it’s time to breakup:
- The sexual attraction is gone. Sex is few and far between with you two. Even when you finally have sex, it’s like an outer body experience. Maybe you even feel sad or disgusted after you have sex with them.
- There is no trust. They don’t trust you or you don’t trust them. The relationship is plagued with suspicion and doubt.
- More fights than conversations. There is more bad than good when it comes to your communication. Everything seems to turn into a fight.
- You avoid spending time with them. You don’t even really want to spend time with them and make excuses not to. When you do finally spend time with them they feel like a stranger. The interaction is awkward between you two.
- You are no longer thinking of a future with them. Your future thoughts and plans no longer include this person.
- You fantasize about someone else. Someone else is always on your mind. You fantasize about what it would be like to be with them. You think about scenarios of meeting someone else and what that would be like.
- It’s no longer fun. You have lost the laugher and the ability to have fun in your relationship. Everything feels forced.
- You can’t even have a conversation with them. Having a conversation with them is like pulling teeth. You feel like you have nothing to say half the time.
- You don’t even really like them/Realize you have fallen out of love. Everything they do annoys you. You no longer identify with the person they are and you find more and more things about them that are not compatible with you.
- Your intuition is telling you this relationship isn’t right. Your gut will never steer you wrong. If you’re questioning the relationship, trust that.
Since when is mediocrity OK for a relationship?
If you are experiencing any of these signs of a breakup and your intuition is consistently sending you huge signals something is wrong in your relationship, it’s time to breakup. It’s time to release the relationship that is no longer serving you, so that you can be open to one that will feel right for you.