When you get into an argument with your significant other it can be easy to get over heated and say something you don’t actually want to. Here are 4 things you should never say to your partner when you’re in a fight if you don’t want to hurt your partner and cause more drama down the road.
4 Things You Should Never Say to Your Partner When You’re in a Fight
Did you listen to what I just said?
This can be condescending because you’re assuming your partner isn’t listening, if they were listening they’re going to be mad you assumed they weren’t and if they weren’t listening they’re going to be defensive. Instead, if you ask a specific question about something you just said it will continue the dialogue in a natural way instead of you ‘testing’ them.
Why can’t you do anything right?
This isn’t a nice thing to say to anyone so obviously if you say that to the person you love they’re going to be mad. Instead of lashing out and blaming your partner for everything you need to bring it down to the specific mater at hand. Always use I statements when addressing your concerns. For example It make me upset when you put the non-dishwasher safe things in the dishwasher even after we’ve discussed it.
You don’t make enough money
If money is an issue in your house take the time to talk about how you can make the money you have go further. When it’s time to ask for a raise practice negotiation techniques together and if the job you or your partner has isn’t going to work then you need to discuss a career change or maybe even going back to school but money is always a two way street. Never make your partner feel like they aren’t contributing.
That person is so hot/attractive/good looking etc.
You should be able to open to your partner about who you find attractive but if you’re constantly bringing up other people then they’re going to be upset and/or jealous. This is why it’s important to have friends to talk to. Have friends you can dish to so that your partner doesn’t have to hear about how cute your neighbor’s butt is.
I hope that when you’re in an argument you keep these 4 things you should never say to your partner when you’re in a fight in mind. It’s important that even when you argue you keep your partner’s feelings in mind and say constructive things rather than destructive ones. If you’re looking for more dating and relationship advice book a date coaching session with me today!