Have you heard about the dating trends ghosting and mosting? Now these trends have been going on forever however now they have names and are even easier with the rise of technology. I’m sure most of you are familiar with ghosting, when you just disappear on someone you’ve been talking to or going out with. Mosting is very similar except that the person has made you feel really good and secure in the relationship and then disappears, it’s a little less common but a lot worse!
Now I totally understand the appeal of ghosting, I’ve done it myself, as well as being on the receiving end. When it comes down to it, whether ghosting or mosting it’s a rude thing to do to someone. Obviously our lives would be easier if we could just not deal with our problems and avoid confronting people but that’s
not how life works. If you liked someone enough to go out with them in the first place then you owe them the courtesy of telling them you aren’t interested. Even a text is better than nothing and if you’ve only been on a few dates you don’t even need to give any details. It can be as simple as “You’re great, but I’m not interested in exploring this relationship further”. Quick, simple and to the point, that’s really all you need.
If you were dating someone seriously and want to end it I feel they deserve more of an actual reason. While Ghosting is understandable Mosting is cruel; it’s on par with going out for groceries and never coming back. Being all in in a relationship then suddenly leaving with no warning or reason is a terrible thing to do to someone. Be honest about why you don’t want to date them, a nice, clean break will be appreciated by everyone, even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time.
So I hope this gives you the courage to break off your relationships with integrity rather than ghosting and mosting; your ex and your conscious will thank you.