How to Approach a Girl or a Guy

Knowing how to approach a girl or a guy and following up with the act, will only increase your chances of meeting someone.

Nowadays, if you are single, you’re better off knowing how to approach a girl or a guy rather than just relying on online dating, your phone or social media to help you meet your significant other.  If you are serious about the dating process, you need to get out there and meet people the old fashion way! Face-to-face is instant and the only real way to know if you have chemistry with someone.


  • Approaching women feels awesome and helps build your confidence.
    Women are attracted to confident men! Try not to appear too nervous as women can pick up on this behaviour.
  1. Don’t invade her personal space by getting to close to her
    This is an instant turnoff for women. Stay back at least two feet.
  1. Approach in a casual and relaxed manner
    Make an observation about something going on around you. Perhaps she is reading the same book as you or she has the latest smart phone and you want to ask about its performance. Watch her body language — are her arms crossed? Is she ignoring you and continuing to read her book? Is she frowning? Is she looking away and avoiding eye contact at all costs? These may not be perfect signals, but I would suggest leaving her alone. If she is interested, she will make eye contact, smile and sometimes lean in closer.
  1. Make her laugh
    Another great way to get a woman’s attention and make her smile is by using fun, playful small talk. Quickly establish yourself as a flirt. Tease her by saying something like “Hey there, I saw you staring at me. I know you want to take me home with you but sorry I’m not that kind of guy, I’d rather get to know you first.” (keep a smile on your face so she knows you are joking). This can be a fun way to start a conversation with her.
  1. Avoid complimenting her too much or at all
    Pretty girls hear how beautiful they are all the time so reminding them won’t make you stand out. If you feel the need to flatter her, try complimenting her shoes or sense of style and avoid complimenting her looks.
  1. Ask her for her email instead of phone number
    Some women feel more comfortable giving out an email as its less forward and low-risk.
  1. Approach her with strength and confidence
    Be the man, lead the conversation, but don’t be too aggressive and don’t use cheesy pick-up lines.

LADIES, I often hear men tell me how unapproachable and difficult it is to meet women in the Toronto area compared to women in other countries and areas of Canada.  Most of you will wait for a man to approach you, but don’t always wait! Sometimes when you want something, you just have to go out and get it! You can approach a man, but I don’t advise that you chase him. Let him come to you.


  1. Be friendlier in general
    Use your natural, bubbly personality to interact with others, spark conversations and meet new people. The more people you meet, the greater your chances of meeting the one!
  1. Smile and make eye contact
    These are two actions that make it easier for a man to approach you and a smile makes you instantly more attractive.
  1. Look good when you go out
    It may seem shallow, but people who put an effort into their appearance usually look more inviting.
  1. Use approachable body language
    Avoid slouching, keep your head high and your shoulders square. Keep your arms in a welcoming position and avoid threatening positions, such as crossed arms or hands raised in front of your chest.
  1. Be more aware of your environment
    Look up from what you are doing and take some time to connect with people. Slow down, enjoy that next shopping trip and try not to rush around all the time.
  1. Lay the first stone
    There is no rule stating that you cannot approach a man. Actually, most men feel flattered when a woman approaches them first. Go for what you want or someone else will. Try putting your number and name on a piece of paper, hand it to him and ask him to call you if he’s single and interested in meeting. You may be surprised at who calls you.

There you have it, some simple tips on how to approach a girl or a guy. The next time, you lock eyes with that cutie in the grocery store, don’t let them get away without approaching; they may just be your future husband or wife.

If you’re still having a difficult time approaching and would like more help with how to approach a girl or a guy, you can always hire Laura Bilotta as your Wing Woman and Dating Coach!

By sitcadmin | August 12, 2016
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