A new relationship at Christmas can be awkward when it comes to gift giving. What do you buy, what is too much, what is not enough?
So, you’ve recently entered into a relationship and it’s almost Christmas, you are delighted to know you’ll have a date for New Year’s, but it’s the week before that has you wracked with insecurity. Christmas! It’s unavoidable, everywhere you look there are reminders; Santa Clause abounds, houses and trees are strung up with lights, tons of movie re-runs, and the commercials, those damn commercials…
Black Friday ads were unrelenting, and they were just the beginning. Everything is screaming at you to ‘get that special someone something special’ and then they list a bunch of expensive items designed to make you feel like a cheapskate if you find them too pricey. But your relationship is still still in trainers and you don’t want to blow it.
Forget everything you see on TV, everything you hear on the radio, everything that pops-up on your screen…..Forget it all! You are exempt, it does not apply! The very last thing you want to do in a new relationship, is spend a lot of money on a Christmas gift.
How much is too much? If you have to ask, it’s too much. Too much is ‘stalker-y’ and can very well creep the recipient out enough to end the relationship. And, as if that weren’t bad enough, you spent a lot of money on the weapon that killed it. Not to mention the fact that it will be a new Christmas memory.
Is there such a thing as too little? Only if you try to avoid it. You have to acknowledge it, it’s the elephant in the room. Bring it up with your new partner in a light, humorous way Tell him/her that you’re sure they have a long list of gifts to buy, as do you, and that you’d rather he/she save for a really nice birthday present, (unless your birthday is around the corner.) Maybe suggest a ‘Christmas Decompression Date’ instead.
Here are a few Decompression Date suggestions for that new relationship at Christmas:
- Dinner and a Movie at Home: You’ll make a meal from appetizer to dessert, (or pick-up takeout if you’re not a cook.) He/she will be responsible for bringing the wine and a movie. You promise not to talk about Christmas the whole night, and whoever does has to either take a sip of wine, or accept a truth or dare, or anything else your imagination can come up with. This is fun, and it costs very little.
- Escape Room: There are many places to choose from. Test your wits, have some fun, match your skills and create a memory (Approx. $25 per person)
- Skydiving Simulator: This is an adventure, it is physical, but you really do feel like you’re skydiving. It’s definitely a one of a kind experience. (This is a little pricier, about $72 per person for 2 flights, but there are always coupons online, just google get a code and reduce the price.)
- Scavenger Hunts: There are several to choose from, some require you find items while others require you answer trivia questions. You’ll be partners working together in a group setting. (Approx $35 per person.)
These are just a few fun and unique ideas that are sure to bring you together while taking the pressure off ‘the gift.’ You’ll learn more about each other and who knows, it may become your Christmas tradition, it will definitely make a memory. Whatever the case, a new relationship at Christmas can be awkward when it comes to gift giving but don’t let it stop you from being in one.