Valentine’s Day is the chosen day to celebrate love, but I personally believe that love should be celebrated daily! Why wait all year just to show your partner how much they mean to you? Every single day we have a chance to celebrate love and find ways to get closer to our partner, I have three tips that I would like to share that will help you and your partner get closer using actions and words.

Tip 1 – Learn Your Partner’s Love Language

Love language is what one needs and wants from their partner in order to feel loved. This understanding should be reciprocal.

Words of Affirmation: Words of affirmation is when you show affection through words to your partner. You can say things such as, “I love you…You’re beautiful…I appreciate you….You are needed.” Complimenting your partner is a good place to start showing how much they mean to you!

Acts Of Service: Doing acts of service for your loved one shows they are appreciated. This can consist of the little things that will give your loved one more free time, such as taking out the garbage, making coffee, cleaning or even offering to pick things up at the store. Doing small or big acts of service show your partner how much they are loved! This is one of my favourite ways of receiving love, by small acts of service. I love when my partner goes out of his way to assist me anyway he can!

Receiving Gifts: Showing your token of appreciation by giving your partner gifts! It doesn’t have to be a diamond ring or an expensive item, the fact that you thought of them and bought a gift will show how much they are on your mind. Your partner will feel appreciation through gifts.

Quality Time: I’m sure we all know what quality time is, and in a relationship this is a great way to get closer to your partner, it is nice to give your partner undivided attention. Let your partner know that you enjoy spending time with them, that you want to be close and cherish the time you spend and that it makes you happy! Show how important their presence is in your life, and don’t forget to silence the phone when spending quality time.

Physical Touch: This again, is self explanatory! Touch your partner, show them you are attracted to them. This is very important to me, I love knowing my partner enjoys the way I feel, and I love the way it makes me feel! You feel love through touch, so go ahead, don’t be shy, let your partner FEEL the love.

Tip 2 – Create Rituals Through Connection
This is a great way to demonstrate to your partner that you respect them and value them, that you want to strengthen the relationship and your bond is going to deepen over time. Creating rituals can be as simple as setting up a plan (and sticking to it) to meet once a day or once a week. You could meet every night or once a week to have dinner together, how about date night every Friday? Or even picking a day that you both go to the gym together. When kids come into the picture it can be so easy for couples to ignore their marriage and this causes issues to arise. It is so important to stay connected as a couple by having one on one time.

Tip 3 – Take Turns Being One Another’s Slave For The Day
This can be an effective way to get to know your partner a little more. You will find out what they like and dislike, find out what turns you on, find out what turns them on, you will learn how the other person wants and enjoys spending time with you. When it is my turn to be on the receiving end, I make my slave (partner) walk the dog with me, cook for me, give me a massage, I have him do all the little things that mean so much to me. Try something new, turn your partner into a slave and you never know the benefits this could have in your relationship.

I hope my tips on showing love through words and affection will help you get closer to your partner and strengthen the bond you share. That’s all for now!

Ciao,
Laura Bilotta