Relationships: Why You Attract Who You Attract



I had the pleasure of going to a workshop hosted by a Tibetan Monk last night. Although the subject was Energy & Healing, there was some very vital information that certainly applies to dating & relationships.

All attractions are based on energy, vibrations, chemistry, what you call it doesn’t matter, it’s all the same thing. You send out a vibration (frequency) and it attracts someone/situation of the same vibrational frequency. For example, someone vibrating on a lower frequency cannot attract someone vibrating on a higher frequency. Simpler, you cannot turn your television to channel 12 and expect to get channel 20’s programming.

You may be gorgeous, wear the most expensive clothes, drive the fanciest car and make boatloads of money – none of that matters when it comes to relationships. It will get you through most doors, but you won’t be hanging out with the ‘cool kids’ for very long. You may look like them, have the same size bank account, maybe more, but you are not vibrating at the frequency you think you’re projecting. You can fool them for a little while, but, the better they get to know you, the more they’ll distance themselves from you.

There’s a reason why you attract who you attract.

You can wear the cloak of dignity, respect and culture, but like that famous Emperor, if it doesn’t match your intentions or how much you value yourself, you’re naked!

I hear it all the time; ‘I’m a good person, but I keep meeting toxic people, what am I doing wrong?’ There’s one reason why you attract who you attract; you attract what you think you deserve. Sounds simple, right? It’s anything but. this kind of thinking doesn’t come from your conscious mind, it comes from your subconscious mind. If you lack depth, you will have a very hard time accessing your subconscious mind. The key to unlocking your subconscious lies in self-reflection and self-awareness, and it takes time, but you will reap the rewards for the rest of your life.

Signs you’re not in touch with your subconscious and/or feelings:

  • You don’t like to be alone with your thoughts, you go out a lot, if you’re not out, the TV is on or you’re glued to your device(s)
  • You don’t have deep discussions with anybody, it’s always shallow, hollow conversations.
  • When someone asks ‘how are you?’ Even in passing, there is a moment of discomfort before you come out with your pat answer ‘me? I’m good, I’m good how are you?’
  • You’ve adopted vanity as a means to distract from your feelings of inadequacy (you may not realize it)

You may be head over heels for someone and cannot believe they seem to feel the same way about you. Soon enough you realize that they’re not who you thought they were. Trust me, they’re feeling the same way. You can’t put on a persona forever, the more time you spend with someone, the more your façade fades and your true colours come through. You can either both accept it and carry on your relationship, disillusioned and disappointed – or you both get it, and go your separate ways either to work on yourself or to avoid it altogether.

There is another option; you can do it together! But you have to be willing to take a long and honest look at yourself. If you are insecure or have low self-esteem, you have to raise your opinion of yourself, once you do, you will no longer attract someone with those qualities. You will give up pretension and just think ‘I am who I am, warts and all, not everyone’s going to like me, and that’s fine, I don’t like everybody either.

There will be a realization that your circle of friends no longer fits into your life, that’s okay too – it’s only your path you need to be concerned about – wouldn’t you rather face it on your own terms than be forced by circumstances to change things? Why you attract who you attract is because you believe and therefore behave in such a way that sends out an invisible frequency, the higher the frequency, the higher the quality of people around you.


By sitcadmin | July 17, 2017
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